In a previous post we talked about how you can identify your core belief. In this post we'll use a method of how to challenge your core belief.
We know we repeat ourselves a lot, but we cannot stress enough that a thought is not a fact. It is 'just' a thought, but we give it so much power in our minds. However, because we know it's only a thought, we have the power to challenge it and change it.
So, the gloves are now off and we're going to kick our core belief into touch 🙂
Entering the court room
Imagine you're in a court room and have a judge and jury in front of you. When lawyers present their evidence, they can't say "I believe this happened, your honour", they have to state the facts of the case. The same is true with this exercise.
Make your case for the defence and prosecution
Get a piece of paper and a pen. Write your core belief at the top and then underneath it draw two columns. One column should have the heading "Evidence for" and the other column should say "evidence against".
Start with whichever column you want. When we work with clients we tend to start with the "evidence for" column first to list the things which support their core belief. Remember, the evidence should be factual and not things you merely believe.
Then move onto the "evidence against" column and, again, list down factual things which dispute your core belief.
This process might take a while. It's often all too easy to start listing beliefs rather than facts, so take your time. If you're stuck then ask a friend to help you think of factual items for each list. An outside opinion can often be more objective than your own.
Review your findings
How did you get on with the list? Be really critical; is each item under each column factual?
Even if you have some factual items under the "for" column, this doesn't mean your core belief is true. Remember that a core belief is a global belief about yourself, so a few items which seem to support this belief don't make it something which applies to the whole of you.
The aim of this exercise is to come up with a more balanced view of yourself, rather than the "extreme" view which comes from a core belief. Based on your list of "fors" and "againsts", what would a more balanced belief about yourself look like?
For example, if your core belief is "I'm a failure" based on not passing a few exams, then a more balanced belief might be "I'm not good at every subject, but that doesn't make me a total failure".
Over to you; try it and see if you can come up with a more balanced belief.
What did you think about this exercise? Let us know in the comments!